Most of the blogs I write require some research into the subject I am writing about. Even golf articles, I will research certain ideas, to see what other people’s opinions are. This blog will be an exception, in that I will be writing and discussing strictly from experience. What does old vs. young mean. It is the long standing belief, of the older generation that the youth of today, have it easy, are lazy, and in fact are not very intelligent. I grew up hearing this from my elders, and about 4 years ago I experienced the other end of the spectrum, when I heard some of my former classmates from high school, talk about today’s young people. They particularly hit hard on the intelligence of the younger generation. One was a former school teacher, so I guess she felt that she should know. How did all this get started, where the older generation thinks that the younger generation, has it so much easier than they did. Besides that, it seems that this type of thinking can pervade everyone’s thinking no matter what the age of the person. There is the old saying, the grass is always greener on the other side. I think that should be changed to the grass is easier to take care of on the other side. Let’s look at my experiences with this.
I grew up having the best father a child could have. He taught me how to play baseball, golf, and bowling and he taught me well. He spent many hours with me and to this day was my main mentor in life. He taught me more about life than any person I have ever known, and I will always be grateful. But even he fell into this analysis. When he thought I was being a shiftless 10 year old, he told me that when he was 10, he and his brother laid a concrete sidewalk around and through his parents property. He gave me other examples of how tough things were doing the depression, and how easy I had it. One can hear stories like this, even if the age difference between people is not that great. When I was in the 5th grade, I would hear from my older friends how much harder the 8th grade was. When I was in veterinary school, I heard how much harder it is out in the “real world” when I would be trying to work for a living. But you know what I found out? It was not harder but just different. As you grow older, and go through life, things are changing, you make adjustments and most of the time things will work out. Life can give you some harsh blows, with the loss of love ones and health issues. These things in life do not make you stupid or lazy or less than the older generation. Of course, this goes in the other direction where young people think the older generation, is feeble, losing skills, out of touch, and is taking up space where younger people could do a better job. As I moved into my 30’s and 40’s and had my own successful veterinary practice my father gave me more credit and respected my work ethic. But he put that moniker on my daughter’s generation as the ones who were now the lazy group, and their life was now too easy. He was saying the same thing about that generation, that he had said about my generation, but it looked like I had turned out pretty well.. I wonder if he thought he had a hand in that, because of him telling me how lazy I was as a youth. I really don’t think he thought that way.
So why does the older generation think the younger generation is going to screw up the world with their bad attitudes, laziness, and lack of intelligence. Maybe because the older generation, has already screwed up the world, and it makes them feel better to think that the next generation, will do it worse. This breaks the basic rule of meditation. People do not look within, they look at outside of themselves, to make decisions, and evaluate the world. We all have had crosses to bear. Some have had it harder than others and some people have been able to overcome great odds to have successful careers and lives. Some of their stories have inspired many people to create a better life. But each of us has to look within, to see what we can do to make our life better and more enjoyable. At times, this is not an easy task, no matter who we are or where we come from. One of the things that will not make our lives better, is to compare. That is essentially what one is doing, when it decides a generation is lacking, or a part of society has had it easier. In some cases your feelings and thoughts maybe close to the truth. The bottom line is, that is still not helping you to make a better life for your self. Stop caring and evaluating what that other yard looks like. Look within and figure out what your next move will be, no matter what your age or status. The outside world does not need your judgement on the future. Start meditating and young people will improve, without having to age.